A musing Beam

Doc: Banes... how's your lady love? Banes: We... um... we broke up. Doc: Really? That's too bad, yeah. Now George has a love at his side and she is sticking with him. You know why? Because he bought her chairs. That's pretty smart to me. You ever buy Lisa's chairs?' Banes: Doc's real drunk tonight. Doc: Every woman has her chair, something she needs to put herself into, Banes. You ever figure out what Lisa's chairs were and buy 'em? [pause] Nope.    ... from Phenomenon When asked about my talents, I will usually list two things: I'm good at school, and I'm good at being a friend.  I list those because they speak to my values in a way that prompts me to continually try to improve my aptitude. I've mentioned the school stuff a few times, and I'm sure I'll come back to it in later posts, but this one is about one approach I use to being a good friend: buy her chairs.  (NOTE: I'm going to continue to use the female pronoun h

The correct way to read that statement is to emphasize the second word:  I'm not interested in your knowledge ; I'm interested in your actions. This refrain was my frequent response to my daughters when, following when I would remind them about one of their responsibilities, they would answer something like, "I know that I have to do that."  Great, acknowledgement is the first step, but there are several more (not always 11 ... heh).  This boils down to the old saying that "Words are cheap" -- something I wish I had realized before I spent a few years getting a degree in English.  ( :-) ... but I still would have gotten it, 'cause I got to read all those cool books.) A similar situation would arise when we would get onto one of the girls and she would say, sarcastically, "Well I'm sorry!"  I would calmly say, "No, you aren't."  In that case, she really was not.  Even if she was serious, though, I would usually push back.